Are you the one with all the relationship drive?
Are you tired of being the only one pushing things forward every time?
Have you said more than once ‘If I don’t do it, it won’t get done’?
Have you had enough of being the one initiating your dates, where you go and what you do?
- What if your man did what he said he was going to do, without being reminded?
- What if men were fighting for your time and offering to take you to interesting and exciting places for your dates?
- What if everything you wanted to happen was happening and you weren’t doing anything? He had the relationship drive
- How would that feel?
The First Step in making this a reality is to STOP being the relationship drive!
It’s that easy…..
When we STOP we create space between the two of us. Create a space for your man to step into. Let me explain by means of an example. Have you ever had the situation where the person you are with has taken over whatever you are both supposed to be doing? They are pushing you out of the way to do the bit you were going to do. They are interfering with, changing and complaining about what you are doing – How does that feel?
Does it feel like there’s no space for you? Do you feel frustrated/angry/useless/unimportant?
How does it feel when you pick up on their frustration and irritability? What would happen if this carried on and every time you were with this person the same thing happened? Eventually would you just let them do it all? – How would that feel?
Now imagine the person stopping. Imagine them stopping and smiling and asking you what you think – How different would that feel?
Do you see where I’m going with this?
This is what it feels like for a man when we are doing, doing, doing. When we have the relationship drive.When you add in your frustration at ‘having to be the one doing’, you get the picture of what it feels like for a man.
Try it. STOP! And see what happens.
Bear in mind this. You must be warm and open too! This won’t work if you are angry and frustrated. This won’t work if it feels like manipulation or a game to you. STOP because it feels good to YOU to stop. Stop because it feels lighter, exciting, different and intriguing.
One note of caution. This will get his attention….
Let me know how it works for you!